Coaching FaQS

Coaching is a distinct discipline. It’s not consulting, advising, mentoring, therapy, or counseling. Understanding these differences helps you choose the right kind of support that meets you where you are.

Therapy focuses on healing the past. Therapy helps us work through wounds, trauma, or mental health challenges to restore balance and well-being. It’s often about diagnosis and repair. Coaching, on the other hand, assumes that you are resourced and focuses on the present and future. It’s about expanding your capacity and updating your behaviors to move forward with intention and presence.

Advisors offer guidance based on their experience in related areas.

Mentors have walked your exact path and share lessons from that journey. Coaching isn’t about advice or answers. It’s about partnering with you to increase your self-awareness, clarity, and ability to choose your own direction.

Consultants diagnose problems and deliver solutions, often bringing expert knowledge to solve specific challenges. Coaching is different. It’s about exploring your purpose and potential, supporting you to act from alignment and integrity.

Transformational coaching helps you move from reactivity and unconscious patterns into presence, choice, and alignment. Instead of focusing only on external goals or challenges, we look at how you’re relating to them — the mindset and conditioning shaping your experience. Are you leading from fear or trust? Are you defending or learning? By becoming aware of the patterns beneath the surface, you gain the power to shift them. While tactical coaching focuses on strategies and quick fixes, transformational coaching creates deeper, lasting change — from the inside out.

Change begins with becoming conscious.

Many of the ways we move through life — in our work, relationships, and sense of self — are shaped by patterns we didn’t choose. Most of these took root early on, as survival strategies we learned from our parents or caregivers. They helped us adapt at the time, but often become limiting in adulthood.

The first step is awareness. You start to recognize that something isn’t working, or that something more is calling you forward. You begin noticing the habits, beliefs, and behaviors that keep you stuck — even when part of you knows you’re ready for something different.

Next comes responsibility. This means acknowledging the role you’re playing in your current experience and choosing to take ownership of your growth. It’s not about blame — it’s about deciding to meet life from a place of agency rather than reactivity.

As you continue, the work involves expressing and releasing what’s no longer serving you — old emotional patterns, beliefs, or behaviors that have kept you repeating the same loops. When you start to release those patterns, you create space for something new to emerge.

This opens the door to rediscovery. You begin to see yourself with more compassion and honesty. You understand where your patterns came from and reconnect with your strengths, values, and sense of purpose.

Then comes practice. Change becomes real when you start showing up differently — trying out new behaviors, making different choices, and reinforcing what’s aligned. It’s a process of experimentation and learning, not perfection.

Over time, these shifts become integrated. You feel more grounded and content. You’re no longer operating from old survival strategies — you’re creating your life from a place of presence, integrity, and intention.

I coach at the level of context, not just content. That means we don’t just talk about what’s happening in your life—we look at how you’re being with it. Are you showing up from fear or trust? Drama or curiosity? Above or below the line? This shift in awareness changes everything. My role is to help you see your patterns clearly, take responsibility, and make conscious choices that align with your essence and restore creative flow.   

My coaching takes a body-intelligence approach, which means we pay close attention to the wisdom that lives in the body — the felt sense, emotional signals, and subtle cues that often go unnoticed in fast-paced, intellectual problem-solving. We draw on all forms of intelligence: cognitive (IQ), emotional (EQ), and body intelligence (BQ).

As psychologist Gay Hendricks teaches, the body experiences reality in real-time, while the mind often races ahead or lags behind. When we slow down enough to tune into our bodies, we access deeper truths about what’s really going on — what we’re resisting, avoiding, or yearning for. Our physical sensations and emotional responses are not distractions from transformation; they’re pathways into it.

This work is also spiritual in nature — not in a religious sense, but in the way it connects you to something deeper and more enduring than ego: your inner knowing, the part of you that recognizes truth. Whether you call it presence, soul, or intuition, that connection is often where real transformation begins.